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Complaints Women Have About Dating Men

Dating can be a difficult task when too many flaws are to be found again and again in those who you had higher hopes for. Though it's true that many people have their own unique quirks and habits that give them their sense of self, it is important to know the difference between oddly endearing and extremely annoying.

Just as many women have a general checklist of tasks before heading out on the dating scene many men too strive to be well prepared for a hot date. Unfortunately these preparations are not always in line with what a woman would prefer, as are some of the practices during and after the date. Wearing too much cologne, for example, is a major no-no that many men continue to practice because they believe it will impress the ladies. Where they got this idea is a mystery.

While you may feel that your skills in dating need no perfecting it is always a good idea to make sure that your manors are up to snuff. Understanding which habits and practices are the most likely to send your lady friend packing can be useful for both getting the attention of a lady, or politely driving one away should you not return her interest.

Though many women joke about a list of this nature being long enough to fill several volumes the most common complaints are surprisingly enough often simple to correct and easily identified:

* Attention Span: When engaged in a conversation with a woman that you find interesting it is important that you show respect for her chosen topic of conversation. Though this may prove difficult if she chooses anything that particularly bores you, try to keep in mind that you will probably be asking for the same respect from her sooner or later.

* Group Choices: When out with a group of friends many men tend to neglect their female companions when it comes to conversations and general attention choosing only to spend a moment or two checking in with her before ignoring her again. If you find that a large portion of your time together is spent with others don't forget to give your lady friend some attention, or someone else just might.

* Man-Child: Today's modern society has allowed women to be stronger and more independent than perhaps any other time in history. This has also opened up the chance for men to relax their guard a bit and explore more sensitive personality traits. Unfortunately, some men tend to mix up sensitivity with a juvenile behavior than leaves many women wondering whether the man is looking for woman or a mother. Though this may at times be hard to distinguish simply because society does not always encourage such sensitive behavior of you, women can be very picky about which lines are crossed here.

* Deception Regulations: A great many women suspect that when men flatter them it is simply because they hope to get them into bed and in many case the women are not wrong to think this. For those men that hope to achieve more than a simply one night stand is important to be honest when dating a woman ever if the truth is a little awkward or embarrassing at times. Most women worth meeting are far more impressed with a little shabby honesty than a sparkling lie.

* Hold the Cheese: Though many women will laugh politely at a cheesy opening line this is often just an attempt to be polite. Most women do not find the opening lines that require some kind of laughter in response to be attractive because it often feels forced. Allowing things to progress naturally or simply saying hello can help to avoid making a poor first impression.

* Balancing Contact: If you wait too long to call a woman you suggest that you may not be all that interested in her, while on the other hand if you pester her relentlessly you appear to be too needy. Try to balance out your contact so that you show your interest without appearing too eager.

* Listen When You Listen: If during the course of a conversation you become distracted take a moment to tell the woman and apologies. Many women complain that men pretend to listen while secretly they haven't a clue what the conversation they're currently involved is about. If the timing is bad, you need to have the discussion at another time or your simply too tired, let your lady know that you want to give her your full attention later and she will be happy to know that you care enough to make time for her thoughts.

* Lack of Romance: Though finding the time to create romantic situations can be extremely difficult in today's busy world many women feel especially affectionate towards a man who can accomplish this from time to time. Some of the most traditional methods of achieving this, a small gift or flowers, can do the trick or perhaps if you want to go a bit more high-tech try a little flirting online through sexy texts or emails to melt her heart.

* Dr. Sweetie and Mr. Jerk: One of the top complaints women have about the way men act on the dating scene is how differently they may act in situation or another. Spouting out romantic notions when you are alone with your lady only to take on a dismissive, macho attitude when the two of you are around your friends is an enormous turn-off for most women.

* The Roving Eye: When out with your date it is extremely important not to ogle other women. While many men would find it almost impossible not to notice another attractive women, they are certainly capable of showing their lady the respect of not showing it. Most women begin counting down the days until the relationship is over when they catch a man who is supposed to be paying attention to them, caught up in another woman's attributes.

Taking the time to rid yourself of any habits that may seriously injure your chances for successful matches with women doesn't have to be a time consuming or even unpleasant chore. In most cases the requests that one sex may have to ask of another require only a sense of understanding and the willingness to compromise. If you are capable of these you are likely to find that many women appreciate spending time with you.