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How do people in swinger relationships handle jealousy?

Many couples who consider the experimenting with the swinging lifestyle wonder how they will deal with jealousy. Jealousy of course is a natural thing which everyone experiences to a certain extent. While it looks fantastic in your head seeing your significant other in the throws of passion with another person the reality might look different.

When we first entered the swinging lifestyle we talked very openly about jealousy Anne, one of the co-founders of SecretSides.com and a very picky swinger said when I interviewed her for this article, We had our first experience bringing a very close friend of ours into the mix, other couples and women followed after we enjoyed this first experience. Jealousy is always a part of swinging to a certain extent, but never to a point where I would think my husband enjoys another woman more than me

Here are a view important steps people in swinger relationships should consider if they are worried about feelings of jealousy

1)Discuss your fantasies:
What are you trying to get out of the swinging experience? Openly discuss your fantasies with your partner. Many people in swinger relationships go into the experience without knowing what their partners is looking for, a major source of jealousy. Am I not hot enough or perhaps to boring? Most of the times this is not the case, but it does sound nice to hear it while discussing your rationale with your partner.
2)Do you really want to do this?
Be sure you really want to experience swinger sex and not just your partner. If you are just going along with your partnerÃƒÂ¢Ã¯Â¿Â½Ã¯Â¿Â½s fantasy, you will most certainly not enjoy the experience. Throw on top of this that your partner is likely having the time of his or her life, an un-happy ending is most certain.
3)Be sure you both know the rules:
Are you comfortable with your partner touching a person of the opposite sex? Is penetration allowed? Will the swapping take place in the same room or separate rooms? Discuss with your significant other what you are both comfortable with. These rules may be more rigid the first time around and might even be stretched during the experience, but they serve as a good starting point for the evening.
4)Are you naturally a jealous person?
Do you react jealous when your significant other flirts in daily life? Are you uncomfortable with him or her having friends of the opposite sex? Guess what, if you are naturally jealous in every day life, the feeling of jealousy will likely be much stronger during a swinger experience.

While jealousy can ruin a night of swinging that certain bit of jealousy is what many people in swinger relationships enjoy the most. We had an experience where Anne joined another couple, while I remained in my room for about an hour to allow the other gentleman to fulfill his fantasy of being with two women at the same time. Garry, Annes husband was quick to tell me when I broached the subject of jealousy, ÃƒÂ¢Ã¯Â¿Â½Ã¯Â¿Â½I could hear their moans, and the feeling of jealousy mixed with arousal was incredible. When I joined the others it ended up being some of the greatest sex of my life.

In conclusion, you will never know if you will react jealous and whether it will be turn on or turn off before you try swinging. Ask yourself the questions posed above and answer them truthfully and you will have a good start. If you find out this is something you indeed would like to try, you will find out why the divorce rate for people in swinger relationships is much lower than the general population.