Using Opinions to Land a Date

Everyone has an opinion. Most people like to express their opinion, especially when it is something that they feel passionate about. Opinions are often dismissed by those who disagree with us, so giving a person a chance to really get expressive about their opinion can be a real benefit to both of you.

So how do you use opinions to land a date? Its really rather simple if you stick to the basic concept that women want to talk and will open up with just the right amount of encouragement. For instance, lets say that you find yourself next to or near a beautiful woman in the store. Simply asking her opinion on which cereal to buy or some other relevant object within reach is a good way to start a communication. Its completely non-threatening and all you are doing is asking her opinion on something.

This scenario of course leads to a fairly short exchange but it still gives you the opportunity to engage her in conversation and then build from there. If she is even the slightest bit interested in you she will at least slow down her shopping trip in order to speak to you for a few minutes. If possible, use this technique where the aisle or area is fairly empty.

The more uncomfortable she becomes by having to move out of everyones way every time they want to pass by, the more likely that distractions will be a deterrent to conversating. While you cant control the behaviors of other people, you can handle their constant intrusion in an attractive manner or in an unattractive manner.

Opinion polls work even better in a more typical meeting place like the bar or the club. It also works well when there are a group of women around and you are trying to connect with just one of them. If you simply ask a woman or a group of women if you can ask their opinion on something, even coming up with something flattering in order to get the ball rolling, you can end up with a lengthy conversation that is engaging and enlightening at the same time.

Instead of just blurting out they you would like her opinion on something go with a complimentary method like, Since you are obviously very in touch with fashionable clothing, can I ask your opinion on what to get my niece for her birthday? She is really into trendy clothes and I am just at a loss. You have in one or two sentences created a scenario where the womans opinion is important not only because she looks good, but also because she is a woman, and because you are vulnerable enough to ask for help. This can indicate a lot of possibilities when opening up a discussion with a woman.

If you really want to fire things up, go deeper with your questions. Ask gender oriented opinion questions that really push some of the best buttons for hot topics. For instance, ask a woman or a group of women about their opinion on women presidents, and then add fuel to the fire with more innocently driven questions that challenge them. The coolest part is that unless you are specifically challenged, you never have to offer an opinion of your own so that you are not the catalyst, just the moderator.

If you are pushed for your opinion, there is no harm is debating that you are asking her opinion because you dont have enough information to inform an intelligent opinion as of yet, which gives you a nice excuse to continue asking her more questions on the topic and getting her opinion on some of the relevant subtopics.

When women feel engaged in the discussion, they also feel a connection to the people that they are discussing the topic with. When you start pushing peoples emotional buttons you are never really sure what is going to come of it. But you can be sure that there will be some emotion.

Emotionally charged opinion oriented discussion is a great way to feel connection with other people in our lives. It opens us up to their inner workings and allows us a certain level of insight into their personality and belief system. Because there is an emotional connection to the people she is debating with, you are likely to be able to land a date after getting her to open up like that. It certainly isnt foolproof, but this method of communication has already proven to have dramatic results in the lives of those you use it.

Ask a lot of why questions. Questions that begin with should, or can or most other words leave the room for a simple answer. Stay away from multiple choice and go straight for the questions that entice her to go deeper and to delve into her thought process. The more information she gives you the more chances you will have to ask a pertinent question.

Questions that start with why or follow up questions that ask for reasoning are a fabulous way to keep the conversation going, to make her feel important since you are looking beyond her initial answer and delving into her personal aspects and reasons, and also give you an opportunity to really understand some pretty important things about her even if your questions seem mundane.

You can never really be sure that a woman is being completely straight forward with you unless you are willing to delve into the why questions. Her answers might begin to lap each other or contradict each other. This doesnt mean that she was lying to being with but it means that you are starting to crack open her wall. We all have that wall that we present to the outside world.

Behind it is the real us that we hang out there for those of us who know us a little better and with whom we feel rather safe with. The safer we feel the farther we come out from behind our wall to show ourselves. This doesnt mean that if a womans answers dont lap and contradict each other that she is lying, but that she might be a very secure and very attuned woman, especially when it comes to her beliefs and thoughts.

Dont be afraid to have some fun with getting the opinions of women. Use yourself and something about you as the opinion in question. Put yourself out there and then ask people to judge you. This is not only a fun experience for women, but it can be helpful to you. Women are likely to give you the truth if you push for it. Dont be afraid to thank them for their honesty and then have a little more fun with it. If you are wearing a pink flowered shirt (for whatever reason you thought that was a good idea) approaching a few women and asking them outright what they think of guys who wear pink flowered shirts is going to be a huge experience for you.

Some women will criticize you and when you can take it all in good natured fun, you make an awesome impression. Women like a guy they can be honest with. If your feelings are going to hurt or if you think that youll get upset about anything a woman can possibly say about you, then you might want to think twice about using yourself as the topic. But if you can hack it, women will be happy to help you and impressed with how well you handle it.

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